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‘He fought so hard’ - wife pays tribute to Barry, 48

By Burton Mail  |  Posted: April 22, 2014

  • 22/04/14 tribute to barry hayman Tribute to Barry Hayman

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THE family of a 48-year-old man who lost his battle with leukaemia have paid tribute to ‘a loving husband and wonderful father’.

Linda Hayman, of Stanton Road, Stapenhill, described her husband, Barry, as a fit, healthy and outgoing man who was determined to spend Christmas and his daughter’s 16th birthday at home, despite spending most of the last five months in hospital.

Mr Hayman, known as ‘Baz’, had been suffering with a swollen knee in the months leading up to his leukaemia diagnosis.

His wife, Linda said: “He had a swollen knee just before a two-week holiday to the New Forest in August last year.

“When we went he couldn’t do anything. Usually we would be riding bikes and walking but he stayed indoors.”

The former under-gamekeeper at Rangemore Estate went back and forth to hospitals where x-rays revealed nothing and painkillers did not help. Finally a visit to his doctors resulted in his immediate hospital admission.

His 52-year-old wife, who he married in 1997 after meeting at their friends’ engagement party, said: “He spent a week in hospital and he just got worse and worse. He was vomiting and couldn’t keep any food down and was aching all over.”

Barry, who spent the last seven years of his life as a night worker at Burton’s Vinotheque, was transferred to Heartlands Hospital, in Birmingham, and he was diagnosed with acute myeloid leukaemia and myelodysplasia (a blood disorder that causes a drop in the number of healthy blood cells.)

Chemotherapy started straight away and a bone marrow donor was found in Germany.

Linda said: “He had the transplant on March 21 but was so ill. He had infections and sepsis. He always bounced back but the affects of the chemo took over. He was in intensive care for a week and his kidneys stopped working.”

Linda, Megan and close friends were with him when he passed away at Heartlands Hospital on April 9.

Mrs Hayman added: “The transplant was working; it had taken, but it was just too late. It was quite a shock because each time he would come home so everyone was hopeful that this would be a match.

“He was meant to come home.

“He was a fit and healthy and outgoing man. He loved animals and the outdoors and walking his beloved Cocker Spaniel, Floss. He was also the leader when Megan was riding her pony in competitions.

“He fought so hard. He was a loving husband and a wonderful father.”

The family wanted to thank Mrs Hayman’s employers, Roger Bullivant, Megan’s school, William Allitt, and the doctors at Heartlands’ intensive care and Ward 19.

She said: “The doctors at Heartlands in intensive care and Ward 19 have been very supportive. William Allitt have been really supportive to Megan. If she got upset they then would allow her time out of class.”

Mrs Hayman also urged anyone else to go to their doctor if they experience any ongoing aches or pains - which her husband also suffered with.

His funeral will take place at 11am tomorrow at All Saints’ Church, Rangemore, followed by an interment at Stapenhill Cemetery.

It will be just family flowers only but donations in Barry’s memory are payable to Murray’s Charity Account.

They will be divided between Heartlands Hospital ICU and Ward 19 and RSPB Reserve at Arne, Dorset.

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