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‘Why is my love for someone an issue?’

By Burton Mail  |  Posted: February 20, 2013

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WHEN Parliament voted to back plans for same sex marriage, MPs and church leaders made their opposition clear.

It was nothing short of vandalism, they suggested, to ‘redefine’ the terms of an institution which had always applied – and which should continue to apply – only to two people of the opposite sex.

Opposition to the move, in Burton and South Derbyshire at least, appeared to be resolutely at odds with the prevailing mood – but not everyone, it turns out, agrees.

Simon, a gay teenager, says he feels ‘disgusted’ that Andrew Griffiths, Heather Wheeler and Andrew Bridgen, Tory MPs who represent Burton, South Derbyshire and North West Leicestershire respectively, voted to oppose gay marriage.

The atheist also says his educational studies of Christianity’s views of homosexuality leave him well placed not only to understand, but to challenge its arguments.

“To me, equal marriage isn’t about having the same laws as a civil partnership; it’s about being recognised as an equal human being,” Simon says.

“Children are brought up with the belief system that, as human beings, we are all equal.

“However, our MPs are trying to oppose this. They are trying to challenge the fundamental idea that children are raised to understand.”

In his opinion, such ‘narrow-minded hypocrisy’ warps children’s moral values and undermines attempts to tackle the bullying of gay pupils.

“Love is universal,” says Simon. “It has no boundaries; whether it’s two males, two females or a male and a female.

“I understand ‘marriage’ to be defined as a ‘civil union between a male and a female’ but cannot fathom that the MPs truly believe that, for loving someone, people they claim to be ‘equal’ should be denied the right to partake in the same ‘civil union’ as everyone else, whether they are from a religious background or not.

“Surely, if marriage is such a religious statement that such drastic segregation needs to be made, all non-religious couples should be denied this right?

“I see no decent reason or justification for this kind of discrimination against homosexual couples.

“Creating such a gap between communities will only create more space for hatred.”

Allowing gay couples to marry would also be a good starting point to change the way people regard homosexuals, he says, arguing that society as a whole should strive for progress.

Simon says he finds it difficult to understand why gay marriage is an issue.

“Why have I had to argue that equality is the correct path to take?” he says.

“Why is my love for someone else such an issue, especially to people it doesn’t actually concern?

“Why is my right to partake in a ceremony everyone else can being argued against?

“I am no great religious believer, nor am I naturally a political person, but when my right to something I believe to be so straightforward and unquestionable is taken away from me, I won’t take it lying down.

“I am a human being. I am of legal age and I have a deep love for my partner and plan on spending the rest of my life with them.

“All I am asking is that I receive the same treatment as every other couple.”

The right to marry, argues Simon, is of huge importance to the gay community.

“For the majority, equal marriage will have no effect,” he says.

“However, for the minority it does affect it would mean the world.

“There is no pick and choose with equality.”

*The Mail has not used Simon’s real name to protect his identity.

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  • Roger10  |  February 28 2013, 5:50PM

    Missy 2167 I have no truck with any religion not just christianity. I refused to marry in a church because I am not a hypocrite. You say you are not against gay people yet you say gay folk should be treated differently to the rest of us. A bigot is as a bigot does and bigotry is everybody's problem not just mine!

  • ReaderW  |  February 26 2013, 1:00PM

    Missy2167, again you twist what has been written for your own gain and to suit you. Perhaps you can point out the comment where I call you a bigot as I certainly havent and wouldn't have written that, despite perhaps having the opinion that you could be. But as you rightly point out, I am also entitled to my opinion!

  • Missy2167  |  February 25 2013, 3:11PM

    Burhan, well said. This is my point entirely. Why can't gay people simply have a civil partnership? It gives them the same legal rights. ReaderW. As I have said before, I am not against homosexuals and I do not treat them as unequal citizens. I just don't understand why they want to use the word 'marriage' for their partnership??? It is easy to call someone a bigot just because they have an opinion on a topic. But I could also use the term for people who are insistent on high jacking the Christian and Muslims holy teachings of same sex couples not being allowed to 'marry'. I accept and respect your right to have an opinion on the matter but you must also accept and respect my right to my opinion...without reducing yourself to name calling!

  • Burhan  |  February 25 2013, 10:19AM

    There are no restrcitions on homosexuals in any shape and form in this society. The law of the land gives them equal rights. But why do they have to use the word marriage in their civil partnerships? Why can’t they just use or even create another term.

  • ReaderW  |  February 25 2013, 7:26AM

    Good point well made Roger! Missy2167 - its a good job not all Christians act/ think and talk in the same way that you do or you'd give us all a bad name.

  • Missy2167  |  February 23 2013, 11:42AM

    Roger, I am not against gay people and I am certainly not against them developing a caring and loving relationship. They can have a civil partnership ceremony and I truly believe that they should have the same rights as a heterosexual couple but...the church is a religious institution and there are rules. One of those rules in the Christian, faith is that marriage is between one man and one woman. Roger, you clearly do not believe in Christianity so if you wanted to pledge your love for another man, you wouldn't wish to be joined together in church, would you? Well that is not a problem because you can still be joined together legally by a civil ceremony. So I don't see what your problem is?

  • Roger10  |  February 23 2013, 8:12AM

    There is only ONE reason for being against gay marriage and that is that you are a bigot! The bible is a collection of fables and fairy stories that has been translated and interpreted so many times it has lost any meaning it may have once had. It has also been edited to suit the political leanings of the religious leaders of the day. To put any stock in this book is just crazy! As for gay marriage being against the law... what a load of tripe. Laws are set down in Parliament, debated and decided on by men and women elected by the public. Laws can and are CHANGED all the time. A cowardly bigot will find anything to hide behind while they spout their ill thought out baseless rubbish!

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  • Missy2167  |  February 21 2013, 5:30PM

    ReaderW. We can't call it marriage because the law in the UK says marriage is the union of one man with one woman. Yes, I have read all of Leviticus and can I point out that Jews do not wear mixed fibre clothing for this very reason. Why can't we find a new word to describe the union of one man with one man? Why do they want to call it a marriage when it isn't? If they get their way and homosexuals are allowed to 'marry'. it won't be recognised by the Church of England or by the Catholic church...so what have they gained? Both the C of E and the RC churches have said that they will not be allowed to 'marry' them so they will just have to put up with the 'inequality' won't they? I can tell you now, the Roman Catholic church will never allow two chaps or two gals to be joined in holy matrimony...not until hell freezes over. So it seems to me that they have got a long and fruitless campaign ahead of them.

  • ReaderW  |  February 21 2013, 8:07AM

    Simple... lets call the union marriage! Have you forgotten the Old Testament and the relationship between David and Jonathan? "I grieve for you, Jonathan my brother; dear and delightful you were to me; your love for me was wonderful, surpassing the love of women." The Bible is possibly one of the most ambiguous books of all time. You seem to wish to continue to recit the same passage from Leviticus, perhaps you should read on and also live by other quotes within the same Leviticus, which condemns wearing mixed fabrics and eating shellfish... and thats where your argument falls on its posterior.

  • Missy2167  |  February 20 2013, 4:37PM

    ReaderW, I am not simply "interpreting' the Bible to suit my purpose but the Leviticus quote on homosexuality cannot be 'interpreted in any other way'. Maybe you think that I am 'interpreting the law of this country when I say that Marriage is a union between one man and one woman'? Ummm? The fact of the matter is that these unions between homosexual people are a new thing so we need to find a new word, term or phrase for it. it cannot be called a marriage so let's decide what we will call it? And before you start grizzling equality, equality... I am a female so I cannot be called Mr, I must be called wither Mrs, Miss or Ms....The titles are different because the two genders are different...they are all pre-fixes of a name but they denote a different gender. Marriage equals one man and one woman Civil Partnership equal one maan and one woman who are atheist or who do not want the involvement of the church in their legal union. ??????? equals a union of one man with one man or one woman with one woman....now, I ask again, what shall we call this union?